Agony Aunt/Uncle

You don't have to make friends by yourself, you can go to clubs with some of your mates and meet new people with them so they don't feel like your leaving them out. Your friends wanting you to themselves shows that they want to spend time with you, so that's is a nice thing for you. Another idea is to talk to them and explain that you really like them, but you feel you want to meet other people. Remember youth council will be happy for new members and are very friendly.

firstly we realise that you are in a difficult place, but you are not alone. There are other people going through what you are so there's people you can talk to; you can talk to youth workers at the youth center and you can talk to a teacher at your school who you trust. You can also write a letter to your parents saying what you want and in doing this your point can be put across with out getting stopped half way through. with this you may find it easyer to say what you want than saying it to their face. You may want to write the same letter twice so they can't compare and doubt how you feel. You need to let them know how you feel and although your in a difficult place you can ask them if you can do anything to help. and remember you can talk to a family member who you may be close to. We are always here if you want a chat or if you want to send another message. good luck x

To start with you could try to expand your friendships by joining school clubs and doing more activities such as the youth council, this will boost your confidence without you knowing it, so when she does leave you have other people you can talk to. Always remember that you can see your mate in the holidays. there is facebook, texting and even giving them a call. Remember they are not gone forever and you will always have support from us when you need it. Good luck and i hope it all goes well and ends up right!!!

to start with you should get to know her abit better and try to befriend her, this could make asking her out easyer. also if you get to know her you may find out where she likes to go and what she likes to do. if she seems not to be that into you dont force it apon her, give the girl space. (read her body lanuage) good luck!!!

first you need to empathise with him, think how you would feel if you smelt and did not know. you should brake the news down slowly and think how you would want to be told. also another opion is to talk to a teacher and ask them how they would do it and you can see if they can help you. good liuck

Hi there :)
Well, bullying in all senses is wrong! It's not nice at all for the person recieving it. You are doing the right thing in not wanting to join in, and you should feel good about yourself for that.
You should talk to your friends, and tell them exactly what you think. See if you can make them understand how bad it must make the poor girl feel. If they truly are your friends, they will understand, and if not, maybe you should consider moving on. Because nobody likes a bully.

We hope this helps :)

Hi, You are right that you have long life ahead of you, as you are still only 14! If your friend is calling you frigid, then maybe talk to her, and see why she thinks that. It may just be a case of simple misunderstanding.

Sex isn't the be all and end all, if you don't want to do it, then don't feel that you have to. You won't necessarily be more mature as a result, and so do take it at your own pace, and in your own time. Also, remember that sex under sixteen is illegal, so many people your age will be in the same position as you.

Having a girlfriend isn't something that happens just like that, it happens over time, and you will find the right person for you eventually. Hope this helps! and remember to just be yourself and dont worry! :)

Well to start with it would be a good idea to talk to your parents about what you're thinking and the problems you're facing. Ideally this would happen with both your parents and sister at the same time, however if this isn't possible then try talking with each seperately but by including your sister in it as well.

A good suggestion may be to try and relax the rules about when you should visit your dad, altering which days you travel there and back, and perhaps try and fit in what you want to do with friends by shuffling the days slightly.

As long as you really let both your parents know how you feel and how you are sincere about how much you love them, they should understand that you're now 17, and you need to have some control over your life as well as you mum having her "peace and quiet". It's completely understandable that you feel guilty about asking your parents, especially your father, however it's important that you think about yourself in this case, as well as your sister. If you sort this out now it will no doubt be of benefit for your sister as well when she's older.

Good luck :)

It must be really hard for you to accept the fact that your friend is going away, and it is totally understanding that you are worried and will miss him. However you have to think of the positives. There are so many ways of keeping in contact, such as facebook, skype or twitter where your friend will be uploading all his photos of his new experiences so you won't feel left out.
Another thing you could think about is maybe going to visit him in the holidays, if you have a saturday job or anyway of earning some money then put it aside, flights are much cheaper than they used to be, and by booking in advance you are likely to get a good deal. Also if your parents are planning on a holiday, why not suggest going to where your friend is moving to. It doesn't matter how far away your friend is moving, if you have a good friendship then it will remain.
Everytime you feel sad or depressed by it think of all your happy memories with him and your group and and any plans you have to keep in contact and hopefully it will cheer you up.

Hey,

It must be really hard for you not being able to be totally honest about your sexuality with your parents and especially if you aren't completely comfortable about it yourself. However It might be that the reason you aren't comfortable is because you have the stress and the strain of not being honest with them and you may find that you accept it once they know because that worry will have gone.

You may also find that telling them brings you all closer together, as your parents they are probably aware that something is up, it may be the case that they already know it but are waiting for you to tell them, and I am sure that they will really respect you for telling them and if you are still struggling with accepting it after that then at least they are totally aware and can support you.

I don't know if you looked at the question below but you are always welcome at the youth centre to talk about it with Beata our youth worker who is fab or even any of us if you want extra support from people your own age, we are at the youth centre from 3.15 on a Monday afternoon.

There is also a Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transexual Questions group starting up next month in Eastbourne at Sussex Down College which would also support you, build up your confidence and would mean you could talk to other people going through what you are and if you need help getting there then it is likely that we can help you.

I hope this has been of some help, and that you feel more relaxed and happy with yourself very soon, because that is what is most important, but don't forget you can contact us again if you are still feeling low or confused.