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not wanting to kiss someone is fine, its a biog step in a relationship even though many take advantage of. its good that your concered about you first kiss, but it's nothing to worry about. kissing is just a physical way to show how much you care. the fact that people are calling you names becasue of it, is immature and you should just ignore it. if its gets too much, talk to either your tutor or parent or come and talk to beata at the youth centre. but your first kiss is a big step and if your not ready you shouldnt rush into it. but good luck x

Well only you can tell if your ready for a sexual relationship and if you have someone who you would like to be in one with. You will need to consider your partners views on it as well as both of you need to be ready and shouldnt feel pressured into it either. if you have these strong feelings for this girl, then maybe you should consider talking them through with her. these feeling when you see her are are puberty acting and you getting either excited or nervous. it is nothing to worry about and is very common. your penis going hard can be easily controlled by diverting your mind and concentration on something less interesting, try not to get embarrassed about it as it will not help. but just because you are experiencing these new feelings, it doesnt mean you a definatley ready for a sexual relationship, think to yourself about how you feel and if you need to discuss things further either talk to someone you trust or arrange an appointment with a youth worker or relationships advisor. good luck

Firstly it does not seem likely that the whole school is bullying you, however if you are feeling picked on then it is important you can talk to someone and mention that you're getting bullied. If there are particular individuals who are bullying you then try and find out there name and describe them to someone who can help you out.
This is certainly a hard situation but have you asked your parents for advice and it's important you don't suffer in silence. We hope this has been helpful and if you want to contact us again with anymore details please do not hesitate.

This is a really tough situation to be in, we know you muct be really worried and thinking about it a lot, so first thing is to stop over thinking about it as I'm sure you have exams coming up.
Have you thought about breaking up with your current boyfriend but not going out with the other guy. Explain to your boyfriend how much he means to you but its best if you just remain close friends. We know some young guys feel threatened by other guys so you need to explain that nothing is going to happen between you and the other guy and that you just want everyone to be happy and this is the way to achieve this. If your not going out with anyone then there wont be any jealousy. We would also suggets that you take some time out from them both after you do this and go and spend some quality time with your girl friends and have a nice girly night in with chick flicks and ice cream! I know it seems like the end of the world but it will get better in time. Dont settle for mediocre but only the best, there are pleanty more guys out there and if they really like you they will just want you to be happy.

Firstly there is no problem with being interested in members of the same sex, but we do understand that there are sometimes negative connotations portrayed with homosexuality. Many feel the same way as you and are confused but over time you should become more aware of your feelings for people.
In conclusion there is certainly nothing "wrong" with you, and hopefully uou will soon understand your feelings. Thank you for contacting us.

you could tell him that if he really wanted to go out with you he would wait until your ready also try talking to him and explain that he needs to be more understanding and respect your feelings rather than try pushing you into it tell him lying about your relationship is a really stupid thing to do and that he needs to be more mature.

Hi, This sounds like you're in a very complicated situation. You must feel confused, pressured and annoyed that he won't leave you alone.
The first advice I would offer would be to talk to him, tell him and make him understand that you really do not want a boy friend and would rather just be good friends with him.
I think it would also be a good idea to stress that it's more of the matter that you don't want a boyfriend rather than not go out with him.
While speaking to him, it would also be good to mention how his actions have made you feel and how you don't like his friends repeatedly asking you.
This is a very complicated position that you're in and hopefully this will help you overcome this problem. Thank you.

First of all, are you sure you're both ready to take this next step in your relationship?
If so, then the best thing to do would be to come to the Youth Centre drop-in sessions, which are held on Mondays (3.30-5) and Fridays (6.45-8.45). There you can talk to a youth worker who will be able to give you advice and where you will be able to apply for a C Card. It's free and confidential. Hope this helps :)

To be honest it does depend on what you value in the longterm , my advice is to write out the pro's and con's of the Barcelona trip and getting new clothes and things. Then look at these pro's and con's and see which qualities you value most. And in the long run see whether you would appreciate going on the trip more than all the things you could get with the money from the trip.
I hope this advice has been useful, good luck.

This is a very serious but common problem. I suggest that you speak to your boyfriend about it and ask him why he was unable to meet you. The best way to resolve conflict , especially in a relationship is to talk it over. If your boyfriend does not have a reasonable excuse then that is when you should start thinking if your relationshipp is worth it. Maybe just have a break and be friends for a while and if that works out, and you feel you are ready to be in a relationship again just give it ago.
I hope this has helped good luck.