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Answered 10th September 2012
Hi i was just wandering when i could come and get a c card and pick up condoms?
Hello, we have a Tuesday drop-in session 3.30-5.00pm or Friday night drop-in 6.30-8.30pm. If you are unable to come at these times, there are at times youth workers who might be able to help you.
Answered 16th July 2012
There Is this Boy I Really Like When I Asked Him Out He Said He Really Likes Me Too But He Didnt Want A Girlfriend. I Am Really Good Friends With His Brother And He Was Talking To Me About Him And He Said That He Really Wanted to Say Yes But He Has Never Had a Girlfriend Before So He Was Kind Of Scared Because If He did Anything Wrong. I Have Fancied Him For 3 1/2 Years And I Have Tried To Get Over im But I Cant! I Dont Know What To Do?
You could always try to meet other boys or become more friendly with ones you already know, you may then move onto someone else. However if you still want to go out with him you could try asking him out again and see if he's changed his mind. Also if you are not that close with him, you can approach with friendship first before anything more serious. Good Luck!
Answered 26th March 2012
i'm feeling really stressed with school at the moment. I am Y11 and have just received my exam timetable. I have 14 exams coming up and all my mum does is go on and on about revision. We have study leave but i only have 3 exams left by then. I just wish i could bury my head in the sand and disappear. I can't stand the pressure and just want to cry. How can i get through this without geting so wound up?
Don't worry, I'm sure many are in the same situation as you at the moment, this is a normal feeling for someone your age. This is an important time for you, but getting stressed and burnt out will do more harm than good. Everybody finds different methods of revising more effective than others, so first of all you need to find the method of revision which suits your learning style the best and secondly take regular breaks to refresh your mind and to relax.. To approach the mother problem, you NEED to talk to her yourself before you do anything else, be frank and honest, and explain thats her behaviour is stressing you out more. If all else fails, talk to a teacher/head of year, and explain to them how this is making you feel, and ask if they could help you out and talk to your parents.
Answered 26th March 2012
Her. My bestmate? She's really changed recently and since I met her, way back in the start of year 7. I don't know what to do, as I don't want to loose her as a bm cozzz I value her friendship alot. But I just want her to go back to the girl I know. How? Or atleast how can I say anything? Should I? I know this maybe a hard thing to answer I just don't understand.
Sorry we haven't got back to you quick enough. It is normal for everyone to change, there will still be some qualities in her that you still like/recognise. It doesnt mean she still wont be your friend. Or even talk to her about it but be nice because she might like the new person she has become so think about the words you are going to say.
Hope this helps :)
Answered 12th March 2012
Me and my current girlfriend have been going out for about a year now and to be quite frank she's getting sick of me. Everything I do is wrong and I don't understand. I know I'm not perfect and I don't expect her to lie and say I am... I also think, myself, that I want to end this relationship but I don't have it in me to say anything. How do I say? Or is this not the end of the road?
Thank you for getting in touch.
Talk to your girlfriend and ask her what the dealio is between you both. Explain your problem. If you resolve it you may stay together :) And if you do want to break up with her, tell her why. Tell her you don't want her to lie to you or feel like she can't say anything. If you're relationship isn't going to work maybe you can both go your separate ways, and maybe it's for the best.
Good luck, I hope you two work it out and are happy soon :)
Answered 27th February 2012
hello. as you now valentines day is coming up and i have no idea what to get for this boy i REALLY like. any ideas, please help?
Sorry for the late reply, we have not had the opportunity due to recent events. The question is, does this boy know that you have feelings for him, if not, take the opportunity to become friends with him, and take it step by step. If this person has his birthday coming up soon, we beleive it would be best to try and think about what to get him for this event. Get to know the things he likes, and things he would appreciate as a gift from you to him.
We hope this advice will be of use to you, we apologise again for the late reply.
Answered 31st October 2011
I Have these friends and they say i am not spending time with them but i spend baisically every day with them. I want to find more friends but whenever i do they get mad with me. I want to get more friends but i dont want to ruin my friendship with them. Are they good friends or not ???
You don't have to make friends by yourself, you can go to clubs with some of your mates and meet new people with them so they don't feel like your leaving them out. Your friends wanting you to themselves shows that they want to spend time with you, so that's is a nice thing for you. Another idea is to talk to them and explain that you really like them, but you feel you want to meet other people. Remember youth council will be happy for new members and are very friendly.
Answered 10th October 2011
My mum and dad have recently separated and i have been spending time at my mums during the week and the weekends at my dads. As i am an only child i mean alot to my parents, but recently they have been arguing, saying that i love one more than the other.. this is getting stupid and then the arguaments develop into even bigger, more scary aguments about strange things. i tried to explain that i love them the same and that just because they are apart has no impact on my love for them. they just won't listen.. i feel so small.. please help .xxxxxxxxx
firstly we realise that you are in a difficult place, but you are not alone. There are other people going through what you are so there's people you can talk to; you can talk to youth workers at the youth center and you can talk to a teacher at your school who you trust. You can also write a letter to your parents saying what you want and in doing this your point can be put across with out getting stopped half way through. with this you may find it easyer to say what you want than saying it to their face. You may want to write the same letter twice so they can't compare and doubt how you feel. You need to let them know how you feel and although your in a difficult place you can ask them if you can do anything to help. and remember you can talk to a family member who you may be close to. We are always here if you want a chat or if you want to send another message. good luck x
Answered 3rd October 2011
i dont have many friends at my school because i am very shy around people but i have one special friend who is moving to devon. we do everything to gether and tell eachother every little seccret we have and i wont be able to do that when she is gone, i am realy upset and unhappy so please give me advise.:(...
To start with you could try to expand your friendships by joining school clubs and doing more activities such as the youth council, this will boost your confidence without you knowing it, so when she does leave you have other people you can talk to. Always remember that you can see your mate in the holidays. there is facebook, texting and even giving them a call. Remember they are not gone forever and you will always have support from us when you need it. Good luck and i hope it all goes well and ends up right!!!
Answered 3rd October 2011
i really like a girl in my year and want to ask her out, i have spoken to her a few times but don't know her that well. How should i try and talk to her and where should we go if she says yes to meeting up? Please help.
to start with you should get to know her abit better and try to befriend her, this could make asking her out easyer. also if you get to know her you may find out where she likes to go and what she likes to do. if she seems not to be that into you dont force it apon her, give the girl space. (read her body lanuage) good luck!!!